Week 6 : Child Development

From this class I can conclude that child development or their growth mainly depends on their environment and also what the parents decide for them.

I think it's important to give children the childhood they deserve while exposing them to a lot of things. If I have a child one day I would like for them to grow up in a village-kind environment, let them mingle with elderly people, spend more time talking to them and going on various trips together so they can develop their emotion steadily knowing they are loved.

Nowadays people seem so rushing to give their children lessons as early as possible, while forget to let them learn and explore things naturally. 

Week 5 : Parenting Skill II

Tonight madam continued the whole class with the story of Prophet Yusuf and his brothers. My mind wanders through the lesson and I can't really catch up with the class. I wish we have a slides talking where we are at, so I get some image about it and revise after the class. Hehe but it's my fault that I could not manage myself to focus and ask during the lesson.

But what I can learn from the story is that it is important to give each of our children a fair treatment and make them feel equal, as Prophet Yusuf's brothers felt that their father loved Prophet Yusuf more than they did. Not saying that Prophet Yaaqub failed to do so, sometimes parents have done their best and it's up to the children to think and act accordingly.

Also, it's important that we put our trust in Allah, and choose him first over all matters. Just like Prophet Yusuf did.

Week 4 : Parenting Skill

One of the lessons I got from Madam's sharing or parenting style, is making analogy of prophetic story to the child so it grew and became ingrained in his soul.

Introduce the names of important figures in Islam when they are toddlers. Start telling stories when they go to school. Parenting is something very difficult that requires knowledge and patience. Plus, it's not enough with just verbal advice. We have to show a good example ourselves because the children observe and absorb what their parents are doing. So it's important to watch and take care of ourselves first.

From now on we have to control our hearts, our temper, our words and whatever that we do. That will be the best and efficient learning process for a growing child.

Parenting skill: subconscious mind.

Week 3 : Concept of Marriage

Tonight madam shared a lot of things and here are some points that I don't want to miss from her class. Madam mentioned that:

The husband-wife relationship was the first relationship that God created, and it started in the most noble place. So why is there still damage in a relationship? We ruin a beautiful relationship because we don't understand the concept of marriage, like marry because of pressure, don't want to be andartu, and etc.

Quraish Shihab: Married couple is like a pair of shoes. Like duduk sama rendah, berdiri sama tinggi. Wife is not the husband's property, not anything but a spouse. So our thoughts, feelings and opinions should be the same. Sekufu means more than same in status.

Life is not funfair. Life is a struggle that's why Allah rewards. And struggle is sunnatullah. Madam said, before I want to demand all sorts of things, a handsome, smart husband, I have to polish myself first. I agree madam. Sometimes we (I mean myself) are unrealistic because we watch a lot of dramas on tv.

Don't be afraid to get married because of challenges, later we will be the people who give up. Married or not, everyone will face challenges, just in different ways. Allah has given a benchmark of 5 ulul azmi to ponder, He does not let us struggle alone. There are many examples for us to relieve ourselves.

In marriage, we also have to believe in takdir and rizq even if things seem impossible. If it meant for us, nothing can stop ourselves from getting it. I think these are all important reminder and words that I've always want to comfort myself with.